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1, my boyfriend Big 8 years, JJ is small, we aim to come together in a marriage, whether to continue, please advice, detailed point.
to you in detail under the jj Google Baidu advantages and disadvantages of small, I can be a simple deal: Look The purpose of your marriage, and if you feel that you care more about his other conditions, it would bear with his little JJ it.
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2, my house in the sales department, sales staff have what it takes Company to do all to me deal with (business in the field.) sales of existing individual personality is too strong, I need help Shihai commanding tone, he seems to be all things the most urgent. domineering also even , and sometimes the toilets, send a fax did not take phone will answer the phone and I did not complain, the boss asked me to pay attention. rest call me to send information to someone, because she has yet to go to work, put on the table , fast work when I sent did not get asked, I said to send, and people then did not work, right boss called again and said put that important information, what to call the others. I wonder why he can not himself make an phone to ask someone else, and I do not know anything important, so often it makes me passive, human services, every day, it was always prick them, often told boss, how can I deal with such people? working for so many years for the first time come across such people, so helpless, ah, other people like this, get along very well.
not everyone can do it with people, not everyone knew weight, so, since careless touch on such a bird, his first work to be perfected, so Ah could not find some flaws, so small you can hear some leadership about you all the time. For example, you cite these two cases, entirely avoidable, After his attention to it. and sales staff is the backbone of corporate profits, they are leadership attention is normal, so they drag a bit, you should understand, especially those who want to understand the good performance of the pet and pride of the salesman who, no way, your wages are they found, you really have to respect them, with their.
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3, he and I got married a year before marriage also have to quarrel quarrel, but none over a week, two days like, feeling he was immature, but good to me, saying listen, feel good to end up. marriage, we do not house, temporarily live in his house, to frequent the Cold War, because he behaved in his house very self, or even very proud of. had just been married, I am all very strange, coupled with his marriage to my indifference and great contrasts, I am not very accepted, often ran back to her parents live. Sometimes the Cold War can continue in January , do not say, no one who lived in, there is no wedding that some sweet. Then he unit apartment house, pick up the next to move over. This thought is not in front of his parents, he could be better, do not want another problems. a few times actually had a slight quarrel hands phenomenon, and once he pushed me, and I broke two nails and bloody, he should want to slams.
then I know through the activities One person, though not my type, but it was not at least make me feel lonely, to meet my blank. did not happen, just to play with some physical intimacy, I do not have the slightest sense of guilt, but is met. But later, the mood was so upset I ended the relationship with that person. now we remain so, even I do not want to focus on the spirit of him, and even children are reluctant to give him life, just want to restore the previous single days, the family does not understand me.
married you and your men run a problem, can have their own small home nest, some of the problems can be avoided, such as his parents before their exceptionally arrogant and conceited However, there are other conflicts had a single generation to be consequent, such as who does the housework, who is in charge. In short marriage is mutual adaptation, mutual tolerance, mutual tolerance, mutual care, should not the mind, certainly running into torture. you are right now disharmony, to well-correction problems, and actively communicating, it can not communicate can not change to break up early. While your family care about your marriage, but they are more concerned about whether you are happy, when you feel comfort from the marriage when it was responsible for their own: Do not have children at this time, do not imagine at this time, other men can give you the marriage, for their own divorce, you must adhere to the principle.
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4, first love is college students, when their own is simply not sensible little girl, love me more like an attempt, and he after me, I promise. working after getting to know what kind of person you love, what kind of life, So to mention breaking up. love seriously hurt him big break, he went far away, we have made no contact over the years. But my heart has always been sorry, as if he is not responsible for like .2 years ago, the University Alumni suddenly come to a bit of new students, always gave me a small piece of paper, and all are well aware of my (living conditions, and even height and weight hh). I always thought it was a joke the same bedroom with his girlfriend, did not care about, and occasionally returned to a. later learned that this student is the first love of his wife. was very surprised at her own initiative to contact me, even in my birthday, the old name in her note to me a blessing. But at the time did not think, because I was is preparing to get married. Later, I used MSN and QQ, she actually jumped out to chat with me, I am particularly surprised. had she deliberately used false identities before I accidentally added her as a friend.
she always say to make If people feel uncomfortable, they always say want to be my friend. and they told me the same city now. I was depressed, she was in the end know that I am through what channels of information? including work phone number home address and so on. Since After breaking up I never had contact with her husband, nor any hostility against her, I even wish them heart. do not know what purpose she did in the end, or I think too much? I want to communicate with friends, and felt that Instead, this matter it unclear who can believe in? you analyze what her state of mind, ah, how do I do to make her understand that her behavior does not continue this nonsense?
should be your first love and his wife confessed the evidence, trying to problems in her marriage passed on to you on this so-called three. You may wish to contact her dragged all black, shield, before doing this step to say something to her succinctly: man you and me been in love before, although so many years made no contact, but I still really want peace and happiness in his life; in order to avoid wrong, I think you my best not to travel, I did not know you do not recognize, and have nothing to dealings , after each treasure it, have their own home, have their own days bear. mm screenshots stay to permit the conversation to avoid playing petty stupid gossips, go to your circle of inflammatory students say the words of friendship.
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5, this year, and intends to marry her boyfriend, we divided the province. the poor condition of his house, get married, then buy a house, his parents also will be able to count by a 10-million, still do not know who would borrow more money later . his family and a brother, 31-year-old unmarried. He may be after the demolition of homes, where, if we buy a house, and after the demolition of a house or compensation points we were not sure. so I think we suffer, we paying back the principal can only be considered out of his home drop in the ocean, the real count buy our own. And his brother would not spend a penny or money assigned to the house. If we get married do not buy a house, my parents come to his house to see his family conditions, I'm afraid my mom sad. how can we do what we now buy their own house, after the demolition to the brothers sharing?
demolition of his home if it is not possible, you do not marry this man is not it? you in the field his family even if the removal and resettlement, but also on account of family members have taken the enjoyment, not your boyfriend's account Bacheng home, and you calculated what? as normal parents, usually as much as possible 一碗水端平, even if the demolition no resettlement compensation to the children, the future of the heritage behind them will make the appropriate arrangements, you wanted to kill the chickens laid the golden egg, is not pressing the point too. If you can Dixiong Liang equally bent on demolition compensation, may wish to talk to you man His parents said: We do not you support a dime to buy a house, but it will give me a better relocation relocation. mm I'm afraid you one that will not go to the 10 million immediately and worry about the outcome, right? Tips: people can not too calculating, or anything you could not take.
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6, I am 29, her boyfriend the same age, living together a year and a half, a very good relationship, boyfriend polio sequelae, legs slightly disabled but does not affect the work life work in general, family in general, get married, then need to borrow to buy a house. bring him home again, my parents strongly disagree with, if not break, do not my daughter, and I angrily back to work in the city, half did not go home . this time, friends and relatives advised me to go home, saying that parents would like me to civil liberties. I am ashamed, want to go home and not return, the family still can not accept her boyfriend, how can I do? If you are not also the said: Listen to mother, then follow the party?
sacrifice is worth it for love, but the problem is that you sacrifice to adhere to a few days? If only out of whim or a moment of hormonal stimulation of courage, in that case does not sacrifice because you give others hope and, finally, exterminate people's expectations, inhumane.
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7, he and I have different classes with the university, very unexpected to come together, he has a girlfriend I'm single, so with ambiguous and might hugging kissing; was young, crazy like him, though he did not give any promises, so he and I are not in broad daylight to maintain a 2-year, several women's apartment close to know. Later we graduated from the Ben things, although the same city but no contact, six months after graduation, when I find the other half when he appeared, we have contacted, but also talking on the phone, appointments, KISS, however, the number is very small, only a handful; 3 years after graduation we each got married, he got the early eve of the wedding he was feeling that a lot of heartfelt words, but not cells. With their families, I realized that such a relationship is very embarrassing, unethical, although no greater place What, courteous to each other, but the atmosphere is still ambiguous. He said, look at me as a friend, hoping to keep in touch, but I do not want to, because who really pay too much, let me in front of this man can not have normal, in fact, their own difficult to let go, it may not let go of the self. and cut off from his agreement, he promised, but every time they came to see me back and said do not want to lose my friend. we have measured, there will be no next-steps, the current relationship go from here ?
because of the ambiguous atmosphere still can not break this friendship is not your normal maintenance of the good. not as good as their strong points, how to contact him then you should not not answer do not interact, a long time, he refused to give up the. now you are Zeixinbusi, but also filled with want to look like loyalty, of course, trade-off, today.
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8, there is the problem really want to shun Why: I have a close friend, business life in some things were not handled properly, we must call to listen to my husband's views. In this way they often call or information contact (normal one) and I feel normal, and believe that the conduct of close friends. But the other day before yesterday Friends say that I am, and husband do?
you men really want and what the other side, has also been, and it is definitely you can not stop the closure is also immortal. That being so, not as wide of their own mind, let them normal links How can people even said they have a married a woman, she is close friends with you, not hinder hinder Buddhist monks face surface, they come up with little possibility of movement; Moreover, even if you are really close friends, and his affair , but also your family find a concubine not only money, regardless of rice, so what's the loss? not to man as the exclusive item, you will not freak out.
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9, 28 undergraduate women The original work in the cities, middle-income, alone is not a sense of belonging, earlier this year, the only family found terminally ill, decided to return home company. and the germination of the idea of marriage (completed family wishes), and the home of a friend known for many years to establish a romantic relationship . both parents are understanding about marriage has been on the agenda. home to work, men and women suddenly very cold (about the former two), and poor attitude, do not hold anything against women and acted so. women no other benefits to s popular. deep male mind about a few times and found there is another woman, and do not let go, because the family against the woman, both living together for years without success. male and married to the idea of holding someone to get along with me, because my heart there is another woman Therefore, I do not look pleasing to the eye everywhere, that I am bad in comparison with her. men knew this mentality is not good, promises will slowly change. I'm afraid their loved ones can not stand, and work in the male subordinates, and not their own feelings on this willing, not at this stage points. men now accused me of doing things every day, and other shortcomings, I knew that I did not love because I can be so annoying, I hope he can quickly adjust their mentality, it is usually between cold shoulder this paragraph. I do the right?
not so he adjusted his mind, and quickly kick him, not two words.
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10, and her husband know almost 5 years, I am 28 he was 32, there are more than a year of marriage, has suddenly found himself unwanted pregnancies. Although we are not mentally prepared, but also eat during the cold medicine, but I feel that since there is also consulting a doctor, said little effect on cold medicine, wanted to stay. no thought her husband strongly opposed, or even several times this noise. He reasons that we currently can not afford to raise children (we just bought a house, repayment of, no savings). and he just changed a new job, my company also benefits well, often unpaid wages. that if a child will affect our own development, we will be nervous the past 3-5 years of life. Although I can understand what he said, but I did not realize he was so strong, quarrel His attitude made me feel strange, I'm getting a little frustrated, and thinking about since he was so ruthless, I removed the child after the speech the way to l he r out, really disappointed.
he are adequate and reasonable grounds, or other loans have almost, his career is also relatively stable, can feed a family when the regeneration of one baby it, or you do not let yourself return to the poverty line do?
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transformation of its dreaming that he is not as cruel transform your point: nothing is to not hate themselves into no regrets Love the old maidservant Bale. you did this drive, to quickly change her husband.
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12, began dating, from the university, four and a half feeling good. I am a bad temper, he asked me, I took him as the only to look at this life. I've been to his house several times, to get along well. We family in general, after graduation to save money, and want to buy a house. His letters home my intercession of Christ. His family wanted me to marry in the past followed by his family letter, I can not do that. Last May I go to other cities, two hours away from his car, meet every two weeks, and he treated me very well and felt no change, trust each other very much. I officially take him to the Chinese New Year home, going by the end of engagement. Chinese New Year back to his city job after I .3 months, they feel the feelings a bit dull, he proposed in January separately, not as much as possible during the contact, do not meet. I am a little angry, but also agreed. almost the past half He really did not contact me, I am angry, the QQ signature to do not love me.
I tried to restore, he was resolutely refused to see me. I collapse. my friends think that I give him too much pressure (I hope to buy a house, will often talk about the bride price), I do not temper Well, he could not bear to leave it. I am extremely self-blame. now I heard he has a new girlfriend, living together, I do not know true or false. broke up without any contact, but sometimes I can not help but hit his phone, he never access. I still can not escape, can not accept that he did not love me, and constantly self-blame.
girl ah, you do not blame the man said, His new love of another delaying tactic, with the , he still would be other women abducted. with self-reproach, as quickly pull ourselves together, to find a new man.
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13, thirty one women left, looks in on. a better stable operation, the master. intimate encounter a man, a better economic conditions than other aspects of women. The men see the female side, then hearing the female families in general, not the courtiers people to extremely cold. and women also dislike the other side looks bad . men disappeared for a long period of time, and about women to eat, but still cold, not salty to contact for some time, men and women found that women do not consider marriage. woman was sick, man immediately disappeared. woman lying they have physical defects, male to mention breaking up. women readily agreed. taken after the men know, they always deliberately woman living area in yard. unit, to work on the road, often to meet. and pretend not to understand women. see women often loners , not around the opposite sex to self-satisfied. women vacation in another province, and met the man, I feel very bad luck was. girls come to useless, no guts, see the man appeared at the gates of a few days are afraid to go downstairs. How to get rid of the timid woman without fierce attitude, be a generous woman.
next see him, take the initiative to call him to say: What a coincidence, ah, always met you, but then again, I'm not clever will, and you love your friends, because I would rather die alone, do not want to marry I do not love ah. mm Do not worry, you only summon the courage to say this once, your courage and confidence to come back, but not Zhesi there will be frequent. To put it plainly, he is a philistine villain, no ability to find better conditions for women, not willing to completely let go of your fear so you can last even we do not miss mm we give him the opportunity to find fault. The more you hit him, and he more they want to conquer you, this is a lot of cheap men's features, you try the next.
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14, likes her boyfriend, was attracted to his character qualities, but unwilling to The open along (their hobby very different, he at the bar during the day I park). I mentioned breaking up (friends thought we were similar, all the love of quiet, but he's more than I like playing, and maybe we did not find along the right way), and my heart refused to take the initiative to miss him, until he turned around, I was seeking as much as a kind of pleasure, really want to heat, the appearance is still cold. ask me what this is psychological then?
What are you mental? Oh, you too think of myself as one, and you value their dignity, but not attached to each other's dignity, the result can only be suddenly abandoned. do not believe in wait and see.
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15, I worked hard in Shanghai for six years and has been living with her in-laws, now I have a point of savings, is planning to buy a house, my brother also came to Shanghai to work. He himself and his friends rented a small shack. I just signed up yesterday to buy room (only a small bay flat forty), soon to scrape together a down payment, after finishing loans, next month to get the key. for the future repayment of 6,000 yuan per month, I intend to rent out the house first, so that half can reduce the pressure . I have and far in the field said the parents hope that they can understand. parents just said, I hope I helped supervise the younger brother had also seized a small house to buy a remote point (if he is to buy a house down payment has a certain degree of difficulty.) In fact, poor living conditions to see his brother, and I am distressed, but they can hardly Yeah. I'm afraid my brother will not be happy, a long time, fear of parents object to it. Dear Shun, if you have any good way?
battles with your brother first came to Shanghai, will definitely have to suffer, and let him have the opportunity to suffer, or his young age, and some rely on, but also work hard? This can aid to him a little money each month, so that his life would not get tough, your own life are not affected, and it was worthy of his brother and his parents had.
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16, 26 undergraduate women, a monthly income of 1000, and looks in general, in the county less than under the previous abundance. intimate numerous first have to like each other, not because the other side not being educated family room or any out, that is, I feel at home agreed that no one has been single until now. mom married my peers are basically have children, anxious to give me the old pressure on her a bit nervous, and this thing is an argument with us for three days five days a little noisy. Mom always said I would not fall in love, that is what I would like to ask you reason, I really do not know I went wrong, anyway, basically talking the other party do not agree with the talking, my mom said that I am old prick, the young girl who summed up my cold, you say, and they chat near point of it, to appear casual, cool point of it, that you high-profile.
met with a half months ago was introduced two years younger, has hit it off the feeling, both conditions were satisfied, followed by dinner and the like, he spoke also for the purpose of marriage, so the thought to get along with, can not forget yesterday, he said he saw on a girl, think it is unfair to me, to break up. faint, if it did, why has the performance of I am very satisfied with the ah? sister, I am depressed.
see above citation, love to find the object and how to will want you.
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17, my husband and I met through the intimate, emotional foundation is not deep, married six months, her husband working in the field, I live with her in-laws (only together), good relations . husband listen to her mother everything, where are accusing me of not quarrel. Some time ago my husband came home, I once again arguing with her in-laws, her husband indiscriminate Bust me, I am very sad, has been back to her parents live. think of divorce, my husband and I did not receive cards.
you still use a divorce? not even a marriage license, at most, considered illegal cohabitation. Now go to his house to fall into something of their own children pull back from this, and he still refuses to travel.
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18, female, 26 male and 27, fell in love five and a half. the beginning, I 21, that he was hepatitis B Small three. his home in rural areas, the height is only 164. This three-year graduate student of his own control their own , I began to borrow money, several part-time tutor. as he work, his mother had cancer, took around forty thousand, all the money he sent home to work. I took his mother a doctor. when I graduated, he Shanghai, emphasized the importance of the two together, so I came to Shanghai, to coincide with the economic crisis, I gave up the opportunity to test the civil service, working hard to find. five years, and holidays, I bring a gift to his house even his brother is the child's clothes I bought, I do not filial to his parents, he is angry, but he never asked my dad the last part. start to his home, his mom to give me money, he said nothing give. I also started his family line, but since he found work, attitudes changed.
my parents divorced early, and I live with my mother and later his mother died a car accident, I was always very sad, all the time are missed my mother, I feel sorry for her. He will not communicate with me these basic questions, and even forget the anniversary of my mom and I went to burn paper. he spends his time to work, are also considered progress. He usually better to me, although not to home, but would like to go shopping with me, give me a fraction of the money to do for living expenses. He can smile and laugh with me, but can not understand the pain of my heart, I divided a few times, did not adhere to the past. often feel very sad, and even suicidal thoughts. I do not know how to do.
you volunteer to do everything for this man, it would speed connection, nothing with it: he did not expect you can rely on the man, his family is not able to give you a warm family haven, you do not leave him, you never feel valued by pamper be understood, how to say, this man is not appropriate for you, he needs the support of a woman, do not want to support women This man may be described in one word, face a strong hand to kiss, and even taken place with men, What do you think (female useless, upset)? after the men were active, I feel a sincere exchanges. men over thirty and. women back, felt like a pimple, I do not know that the credibility of the person.
he can to force you to the second side, and he also met with the next woman like cock-fighting hooligans showed fearless spirit, and then forced another woman into submission, once the cool sleep , you have been abandoned. with sooner or later he tired of being abandoned again, as he is the first kicked off, at least his character is not credible, kick he will never regret.
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20, One elder, common and must be from morning till evening, nearly 30 set. over time, the elders at home, the more frequent the following acts: A fork to find someone, fight for fun, boredom and excess energy; B for all to obey him, He let others do how to do it, any person must immediately complete and unconditional obedience, there is no room for negotiation. little better than he intended to be sparring, heavy tone of the language of evil, it is not acceptable, especially in public, often this happens , others are not bear to hear; C major matter and not ability, to discipline, small unavoidably interfered, always just say quit, always measure its quality and arrangement of right and wrong, even to him to let others be the left foot, others to draw level; D do whatever the arbitrary self-willed, all the time with relatively high housing and income itself (institutional reasons, the original unit is superior), and into the capital and its mantra is imperious. never be persuaded, by any means of communication are to verbal abuse, or reprimanded fight back.
above, real Nan Renshou family members, often violent conflict. he began to verbal abuse will fight back, and move with the hurt feelings of revenge, the conflict will end a long Cold War. family members helpless embarrassment angry sad and disappointed, no words to say nowhere and speak only of mutual comfort, good for evil, patience to survive. because of family conflict prevalent in the district, often cited the neighborhood startling comments. I especially felt was because I was young and often can not be patient, many conflict with it. daily access to community, neighbors look strange, awkward atmosphere. What is more fun to me: , about to begin a new chapter in the great failure in life, face and dignity. years of experience, consumption of human effort, wounding mind, trying many ways to liberation, and finally ended in failure. Today, the conflict was underway, extremely boring, close to the spirit collapse.
it your father this Father is, you almost 30, and the self-reliance, and can move out to their renters to move out, incidentally, your aging mother also brought out the poor. Even tight Palestinian point of the day, but also better than being tortured by fascists made audio-visual nerve. when anything happens to solve things, rather than be allowed to fall apart. you say with it, why did not you come to a good for nothing.
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21, 27,04 years female graduate to work alone away from home in a city 2,000 kilometers outside the state-owned enterprises, the local upper-income peers. Libra B-type blood. holing and very able to take to heart in pursuit of the perfect character. southpaw, has artistic talent. originally only for stability, and sufficient time to facilitate something was not serious do not take the initiative to lead the work, and there is leadership relations, pay rise employment opportunities. But the speed is done so that the leaders satisfied with the performance of every active cultural and sports activities, but also popular. But the plan fails to learn, time to sleep in the online shopping daze depressed all the time, the heart is not here, so strongly talk about her boyfriend .07 of their senses, began to frantically learning, determined to go abroad.
08 year and now her boyfriend met (the outskirts of rural people, the father retired police officers, relatives of the factory now sits, mother full-time housewife, a small night market trading, the family has a brother sister , relatives and lacking in power ...
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